Beautifully Inspired

Career Coaching, Inspirational Leadership and Artistry

 Beautifully Inspired is your source for career coaching, talent development, inspirational leadership and collaboration.  Services include: private coaching, resume creation, development plans and skill assessments.

CAPABILITY

People who are achievers were once dreamers; but not all dreamers eventually become achievers. Before a person gets to become who he/she was meant to become, he/she must be responsible and take the necessary steps expected.
— Israelmore Ayivor, Shaping the Dream

Get Crackin’!  A familiar saying that I love to say to my kids, but same holds true for us as leaders. Inspiring action to get moving on what matters most is followed by the sense of urgency to make changes.  The business world is ever fast and moving.  There is no time to waste.

Capability is defined as the extent of someone’s ability or power against a standard.  Is good enough sometimes good enough for you?  Do you find yourself plowing through rather than making a difference?  Time to get a quick check; get your head in the game.

 

Developing the Leader in You

1.  SHOW UP – Come ready to play every day.

Problems at home, problems at work; it doesn’t matter for a capable leader.  No matter how you feel, what you face, or how challenging you expect it to be, show up and show up BIG.  Because the fact of the matter is – no one cares what you’re going through, especially as a leader.  People are counting on you and they expect you to “fit” into the role of leadership and to have those capabilities.

 

2.  KEEP IMPROVING – Consistently ask why and strive for excellence.

I recall coming on board with a major retailer responsible for several million dollars of sales in a metro region.  I lead the district to the highest percentage in growth that they had seen in years.  But that wasn’t something to get comfortable with.  I wanted to inspire curiosity in my teams, a need to know why this was happening.  What behaviors were different so that we could reflect on them in the future?  There was no doubt we would be faced with challenges in our business in the future as many are in an unstable sales environment.  This brings to mind a quote that I have used throughout my career in sales:

Success isn’t forever and failure isn’t fatal.
— Don Shula

What does that mean?  Coach Shula gave his team 1 day to relish the victory of a win, and the same 1 day to feel disappointment of a loss. Then that was it.  For tomorrow is always another day to take you closer to your goals.  Reflect.  Know why.  Learn.  Move on.  

 

3.  SURPASS EXPECTATIONS – Go the extra mile.

Do the job, and then some, day after day.  Mediocrity is not acceptable.  No one will ever win any awards or get any positive press by simply maintaining.  Ask yourself what is good versus great? 
Good is achieving what is expected of you.  Maintaining on your job description and hitting your numbers are good.  Great is going beyond the norm, taking an extra step, thinking ahead and anticipating.  Exceeding.  This makes people notice you.  Decide to be great.

4.  INSPIRE OTHERS

This is about building trust and inspiring others to follow you.  Through your ability to accomplish and do you inspire and build trust.  However, capability for a leader isn't necessarily the ability to DO it, but rather the ability to know HOW and WHY.  This requires a natural curiosity for your work, your team, your industry.  Do your research and learn the ins and outs.  Apply it to painting a vision to explain to how and why so your team can do…and EXCEL.

 

No one stays idle as the journey of leadership is underway.  You either move forward, or you move backward.  Research who you are, dedicate time and money into your own development.  The journey keeps you moving, either way. Move forward, grow, learn be EXTRAORDINARY!

COMMITMENT

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.
— William Hutchison Murray

Commitment is synonymous with tenacity and persistence as it is defined as the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause.  In leadership, this begins with a commitment to yourself.  
It is why passion must meet purpose, for nothing is easier than words and nothing is harder than living them – day after day.

Why is this?  Why is it such a a personal challenge to commit to something, to stay in it for the long haul?

  • Perfectionism - In our post on CHARM, we addressed how perfectionism was an un-favorable character trait to stay away from. Perfectionistic people typically believe that they can never be good enough, that mistakes are signs of personal flaws, and that the only route to acceptability as a person is to be perfect.  The knowledge of ups and downs in life does not exist; therefore they are always looking for a fresh start, to be perfect. You can’t commit if you feel that you have failed as a person when challenges arise.
  • Instant Gratification – Novelty is exciting and we crave it.  Consider you resume.  How long do you stay with a company?  We tend to rush into experiences without really ensuring that they are a fit for us; that they are in alignment with our passions and talents.
  • Consumer Culture – We are lead to believe that all things are disposable.  If something doesn't work, throw it away and move on to the next thing.  With this mentality we are lacking the ability to truly apply ourselves and see things through.

 

Developing the Leader in You

4 steps to unwavering commitment

  1. Mindset - take a good look at your life and decide that nothing is going to get in your way.
  2. Goal Setting - get ruthlessly clear about where you are going, how your going to get there and by what deadline.  Refine and track your progress.
  3. Focus - this requires the implementation of urgent vs. important time management and strategy.  Spend your time om what matters most.
  4. Accountability - tell others, preferably a mentor, what you are doing and why.  Use visuals to remind you of the end result.  Join a community of like-minded individuals and share.  The best part of this is, as a leader, you 'walking the walk" will inspire others and attract them to you.

 

CHARM

Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects.
— Marianne Williamson

Plainly stated – Charm is the ability to draw people to you.  Once thought to have thirty seconds to make a first impression, we actually only have seven.  That’s it.  Seven seconds that can seal the deal.

First impressions are more non-verbal than verbal.  In fact, non-verbal actions impact a first impression 4 times greater than anything that can be spoken.

Think about entering a meeting where the facilitator was looking down at their notes, at their watch, drinking coffee, looking bored.  What would you think?  That they are un-interested?  Waiting for time to pass so they can “do their job” and go?  Now imagine, entering that same meeting where the facilitator had eyes on the door, standing tall, shoulders back, smiling at everyone that came in the door.  Maybe they even flashed an eyebrow.   What would you think?  That they’re happy to see you?  That this is going to be a great day?   Possibly even fun?  What about if they actually walked up to you and shook your hand?  Leaned in slightly?  Would you feel a sense of rapport, of genuine interest in you as a person?  Of course you would!  In fact, a simple handshake builds the same level of rapport with someone as 3 hours of continuous interaction.

Charm is about more, however, than smiling and looking pretty.  Charm is about being more concerned about how others think about themselves than you are about making them feel good about you.  OBY (Others Before Yourself) is expecting excellence in others because you know that they are capable of it, a key to highly successful people. 

 

 

Developing the Leader in You

  • Love Life - Celebrate, be passionate.  An interesting saying is to set yourself on fire, people love to come and see you burn.  You become immediately interesting and attractive with a positive spirit.
  • Give Everyone an A - No one wakes up in the morning and says, "I want to fail today."  See the best in others and that is what you will inspire them to go after.  
  • Deal in Hope - Napoleon Bonaparte said that leaders were a dealer in hope.  Give people vision.  They will be attracted to you and grateful for it.
  • Share Yourself - Tell stories of your successes or failures, allow others to know who you are, as a person and a leader.  Find opportunities to get a bit personal so that others know you are more than just a title.
  • Stay Away from the Un-Favorable Five.  There is no room for them in leading:
  1. Pride
  2. Insecurity
  3. Moodiness
  4. Perfectionism
  5. Cynicism

CHARACTER

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in moments of challenge and controversy.
— Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Character is our most important asset.  It identifies our strengths and allows others to follow us because of trust. Being a piece of the rock is more about your tenacity during tough situations, where it is always easier to conform and give in rather than take a stand and lead. Our Character is what inspires confidence and trust not only in ourselves, but with others in us.  

The development of character is at the heart of our development not just as leaders, but as human beings. We form our character in defining moments because we commit to irreversible courses of action that shape our personal and professional identities. We reveal something new about us to ourselves and others because defining moments uncover something that had been hidden or crystallize something that had been only partially known. And we test ourselves because we discover whether we will live up to our personal ideals or only pay them lip service.

 

Developing the Leader in You

  • Undertake a process of probing self-inquiry—a process that is more often carried out on the run rather than in quiet seclusion. Dig below the busy surface of your daily life and refocus on your core values and principles.
  • Do what you say.  Say what you mean.  Make sure your actions are in line with your intentions. 
  • Face your flaws.  No one is perfect.  Be strong enough to admit your mistakes, ask for feedback and apologize when you have hurt someone or not lived up to expectations.

Do this and begin to make the transition from being a manager to becoming a leader.